Funeral Flower arrangement: Flowers for Mom

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The timing of this article cannot be a coincidence. When we are faced with the loss of a loved one, we each have a unique, personal way to digest our grief and as for me creating a funeral flower could lessen that grief. I grew up never having emotions shown. “We don’t cry,” still echoes in the mind of me as a nine-year-old girl who soon mastered stuffing all of her feelings inside.

memorial flowers

I have come a long way to a place where I can embrace emotions, especially grief—as much as this one hurts, it is a symbol of having had someone loved, someone, cherished.

This week I am celebrating the life of one very unusual person, amazing and bright in her very own way and who changed my view on expressions emotions.

She taught me to express and share my feeling with my loved ones daily because we never know if we will see or hear from each other again tomorrow.

I was 17 when I started dating the cute guy at work. When I met his family, they slobbered all over me with kisses and hugs.

At first, I was shocked. Then a part of me that had been craving affection for eons woke up and took in every moment.

Every night before I would leave his Mom would give me a big kiss and a hug, tell me she loved me and ordered me to call her when I arrived home. I was confused as to why I should call her—I was only 15 minutes from my house. I forgot every time and would crawl into bed oblivious to the fact that she was waiting.

One time I stepped through her doorway, and she stood there with a silly, angry expression and hands on her hips. “Sweetie, why do constantly forget to call me when you get home?”

I shrugged, a typical teenager. She breathed heavily through her nose, hum. Then said, “What do I have to do to get you to remember?”

I thought about it for a bit…. “Put a post-it note on my head?”

sympathy flowers

Being a smarty pant, she bought it and left me alone for the day. Later, when it was time to say goodbye, she grabbed me—a big hug, a kiss, and a whap on the forehead.

“Ahhhh, ouch!” I pulled the post-it note off my head and turned it around it read: Call me! Guess what? I didn’t forget to call her again, ever! It wasn’t until I was living overseas in a volatile country when I fully realized why the phone call was so important to her.

I often found myself wondering if anyone worried about me, and if I was safe every night.

Rita taught me that it’s ok to say I love you multiple times a day. She taught me that it is healthy to miss a person. And to squeeze a friend until they tell me that they can’t breathe is okay too.

The time I spent married to her son, I learned a lot about affections and emotions, but like most young people, did not appreciate it until later. When I would return to Wisconsin, we would catch up and talk just like the old days and not once did we part without saying “I love you.”

Thanks to Rita I am able to feel my grief right now, and I would like to say goodbye in my own special way, the best way I know how, the way I know I can pour my entire heart out.

I have to say, this is probably one of the most difficult pieces I have made as I wanted to do so many things to honour her and shower her in flowers. However, when I had to think of one moment that we had, the moment that changed every fibre of who I am, it was the post-it note.

Memorial Flowers

Creating a tribute piece for a family member who means the world to you is more than likely difficult; however, it is sometimes the best therapy that flower money can buy.

Funeral Flower

Exercising your talent and pouring your love into something so meaningful allows the tangle of emotions to unravel—the realization that your loved one will no longer be there to laugh with and share special moments with, the pain of missing, and really feeling the pain of missing.

Then, hopefully, by the end, you will have a completed arrangement and a choice to remember that unconditional love is everlasting.

This piece symbolizes the memories, the pain, but most of all, unconditional love. Thank you, Rita, without you I would have never known what unconditional love is.

Mother’s Day is right around the corner, remember to send a gorgeous bouquet of fresh flowers while she is here with you. Flowers are one of the best gifts to engage love, communication and create memories.

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2 Comments

  1. Nancy Tackett says:

    I love this, I lost my mom 7 years ago on Mother’s Day. It was the last time we spoke to each other. It’s a bittersweet day as I celebrate it with my boys but hold my mom in my heart.

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